Wow, that's even more foreboding than "approval"; where's the "Have a nice day!" follow-up, I feel robbed! I'm expecting at least the courtesy of "why don't you see yourself out?"
Obviously, this is a pet-peeve of mine. On principle, that was my first and last comment on that friend's blog. Of course, my resolve is that of a smoker trying to quit, so if the mood strikes it doesn't take much overwhelming to reneg on posting again. But what's the deal? Surely we're not that big of control-freaks? Or that contemptuous of other's remarks? This friend might not always listen to what others say (who does?), but she always hears them out. And sure, she can be overly superficial with image (again, who isn't?), but if anything frequent comments are fashionable, assuming it's not just folks bickering at one another, no? The level of discourse is what it is on comments, but isn't some life to the conversation better than none?
I mean, come on, there's another human being on the other side of that console. Obviously, I have some personal issues to work out. Many of you have seen me rant on hierarchy, openness, space for speaking up. I personally might be a "little" sensitive and overreact to hints of odious practices like modding. But really, what is the point?
As for anti-spam, it seems a little quick on the drawl, no? What about captchas? Sure they're hardly foolproof or anything like that, but to start off with having messages approved?
I'm working on some ideas for understanding it and wanna hear your feedback. In the mean time, gonna experiment with valedictions like "What's your take?" and "thoughts?" to see if that has any affect on fostering some discussions so this blog isn't as monological (monological just sounds like something one wouldn't want to be characterized as, no?).
I think that's the default message, not an intentional slam, but I agree it's poorly worded.
ReplyDeleteI try to be sympathetic to those people who have particularly vicious exes or enemies and have had to put up comment moderation or be trolled every day, but no one else has an excuse. I guess they can be bossy and obnoxious about their corner of the sandbox, but then shouldn't be surprised if no one wants to play.
Oh...and the other instance I'm ok with it, is when big blogs post amateur poetry or short stories and have to turn on moderation just for those entries. Before they started doing that, the comments would get out of hand hateful and it wasn't even fun (not that I had anything published on them myself).
"I try to be sympathetic to those people who have particularly vicious exes or enemies and have had to put up comment moderation or be trolled every day, but no one else has an excuse."
ReplyDeleteThat never crossed my mind. Thanks. Why didn't you mention that last time Kev?
Ha! Wasn't even the first. Apparently the remark "You apparently write like James Joyce." didn't pass snuff.
ReplyDeleteInsane people might carry on onesided conversations with themselves in your comment section if you give us free reign.
ReplyDeleteWhat are you talking about? I couldn't care less. It might even put a smile on my face. If it gets out of line, I'll talk to the instigators myself first.
ReplyDeletePet peeves? I mean, I think we also all have different things that particularly irk us. For some, it has to do with control. For others, it has to do with people who have to have control. ;) Online seems to bring that out, since the console does give us more perceived freedom to be expressive of our personal expectations. Many many times, I've seen a bunch of people griping "how dare people _______" about something that seems perfectly innocuous to me, but on the other hand there are a lot of things that bother me that seem to not bother anyone else, so... I tend to just chalk it up to personality (but then, do I do that because it's a part of my personality?? :P).
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